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Okay, so I had this Philosophy teacher that firmly believed that your own happiness is based on how well you control your emotions. She stated that that person that robbed you didn't make you angry, but it was your own emotions that made you angry. Basically, you control your emotions regardless of the situation. I always challenged her on this, since at the time I did not agree one bit with the philosophy of it. Now, as I look back on all of the things that made me angry, sad, upset, disappointed, etc. I see just how foolish I was and how easily I could have made the best of every situation (yes, even robbery). I set my goals now and reach them because of this change and thought I would see how everyone else feels, since resolution time is here.
Check out this website and see if it makes sense to you, then provide some feedback.
http://www.csulb.edu/~tstevens/hhapchkl.htm

Anselm, it is funny to think that the Philosophy teacher could just have her house burn down, mother mugged, money stolen, and still remain happy. I am also on the thought proccess that involves how well you expend your energy towards a resolution, rather than how well you hide your emotions. Good point.

bchaz1, Great point. As I read the good book, I often wonder why I ever worry, feel bad/sad, think I am starving, etc. The extent of my experiences are far too light in comparison to history's hardships. Sanity is a great trait I always wish to maintain.

This is why I hate philosophy in general.  You can get away with saying virtually any kind of bull you can think up, and no one can really ever prove you wrong, which results in people quite often doing just that (saying whatever nonsense they think sounds deep and full of wisdom).

We do have to be careful where our emotions lead us.  If we allow our emotions to get too far, we could start thinking about only ourselves.  How this person hurt us.  We internalize everything.  You don't want to suppress it either, because it will eventually end up showing up in greater anger or depression.  If you get angry at something, just let it go! It's not worth turning it into bitterness.  Then go on with the life God gave you.  Don't let anything fester.

Better to think positive thoughts over negative ones.  Someone get upset with you.  If you don't forgive them, anger and bitterness sets in.  That changes your character, the person that you were meant to be. 

Don't become a "gimme me" person.  Someone that wants everything they see, can only think of themselves and not others.  They feel their own pain and not see anyone else's pain.  That also makes the person a "me first" person.  Oh, woe is me, I've got this and that wrong.  Go look into the hospitals and mental wards and see who is far worse than you.

There are those who are needy, in their finances.  Some people see them as being very "gimme".  There are times when, because they are in the same situation, they will give of what they have to someone else in need.  Don't keep taking without giving back.  Maybe not to the same person, but to someone else that is needy.

The person that you're meant to be is warm and loving. bchaz1 is right.  In the book of Job, when his wife wanted him to curse God, he wouldn't.  It ends up, because of his attitude, he ended up with twice as much as he had before when everything was taken away from him.  If anyone had a right to be angry, he did, but he didn't get blame Him.

Im happy that I have emotions, that I am alive, and that I can experience and show my emotions regardless if someone likes to see them or not. I am not a computer.

Maybe control is the wrong word to use, as was stated in an earlier post.  Still, think about what is happening.  Let me give you an example.

I was at a career fair when the gentleman who was talking to me asked how did I do my resume?  They get a lot of resumes looking like these everyday.  Now, I got upset with him, but listened to what he had to say.  I felt no right that he had to say what he did, representing a company like that and under those conditions, may have left right away just to show him what I thought about him.  Did I get angry?  Oh, yeah.  I felt he didn't have the right to say what he did because there are so many people looking for jobs, that turning away from a job because the man was obviously wrong in what his attitude was.  A little later, I thought more on it, looked at the resume and thought it could use some updating and perhaps the guy didn't want to be there in the first place or just had a long day, and vented out on me.  Felt like asking him do you want me to put it on pink paper sprayed with perfume?  (Anyone who has ever seen Legally Blonde would appreciate that statement.)

There are many levels of anger.  The kind of anger that kids have on other kids often hurt and can cause something that can stay inside for a lifetime. It's good to vent, but that's it.  Talk about it, talk it out.  Don't let bitterness set in, or hatred.  Keeping things in can not only create heart problems, nervous disorders, etc.  Seizures have been known to happen if not able to discuss things.